Insightfulness - Perspective of Reality

  The past, what is about the past that we can not seem to overcome? It haunts us, holds us back, prevent us, clouds our judgement and blinds us. Most of the people enter therapy trying to cut the cord with the past or to get over it. People want to forget it like it never even happened. They don’t want to be bothered by it. But ask yourself, would you be the same person if you did not experience whatever you did, bitter or sweet. There’s a very common saying that I am going to repeat ‘everything happens for a reason’. There’s also a very common saying associated with it ‘everything happens for a reason, but I wish I knew the reason’ and there lies the answer. The reason, the meaning- that’s a key. One of the most famous psychologist Victor Frankl who worked immensely in the field of existential psychology wrote an eminent book called “Man’s search for meaning”. The book surrounds around his life at a concentration camp during world war II. He never tried to forget his past no ma...

  A day has 24 hours and by subtracting the hour we spend on sleep, we spend around 15 hours awake. How much of it do we spend with ourselves? And what is our own importance for ourselves? Does the answer of these two match like are they congruent? Being congruent means that if you are important to yourself then you spend around an hour of a day with yourself. Then these two statements are congruent. But if you are important for yourself but don’t even spend 15mins of a day with yourself, then these two statements are not congruent.   Two steps towards connecting with oneself. First is to realize the importance of oneself   Why are we even important for ourselves? Well why shouldn’t we be important for ourselves? What’s their not to love and cherish? We should be the most important person in our own life. We should be our own priority.  S econd is to spend time with oneself .  In our busy lives we often underestimate our own importance and the importance o...

Often our actions do not match our beliefs and our words. In psychology an attitude (belief about something) has three components- affect (emotions attached to the belief), behaviour (action) and cognition (the belief itself). Surprisingly our behaviour is not merely governed by our beliefs, it’s governed by the belief about that behaviour. So believing in something and acting on that thing becomes two separate entities. Which is why sometimes our words do not match our actions. Now to unite them, we need to form two separate but same beliefs. Like, don’t just tell yourself that you believe in it, say that you believe in doing it as well- that’s how you are unconsciously preparing your mind for that action.                    Now what about the times when you don’t know why you did something which diverges from your beliefs. What’s done is done and cannot be undone but the damage can be repaired. A routine...

Add caption Intelligence is one of the most studied topics in psychology yet there is so much confusion and misperceptions about intelligence. There are many definition of intelligence but none of them can define the whole concept of intelligence but the definition by Wechsler somewhat accumulate the aspects of intelligence.  "... the global capacity of a person to act purposefully, to think rationally, and to deal effectively with his environment." Every theorist of intelligence has put some light upon different aspects of intelligence so by relying on just one definition could lead to disastrous results. In educational institutions we often determine a person’s intelligence by their academic achievements therefore blurring the fine line between intelligence and education. Because of this made up overlap we often judge a person’s intelligence in a wrong way. Intelligence is a capacity, the ability to be able to learn new things and produce something, it cannot be evalu...