Insightfulness - Perspective of Reality

  The past, what is about the past that we can not seem to overcome? It haunts us, holds us back, prevent us, clouds our judgement and blinds us. Most of the people enter therapy trying to cut the cord with the past or to get over it. People want to forget it like it never even happened. They don’t want to be bothered by it. But ask yourself, would you be the same person if you did not experience whatever you did, bitter or sweet. There’s a very common saying that I am going to repeat ‘everything happens for a reason’. There’s also a very common saying associated with it ‘everything happens for a reason, but I wish I knew the reason’ and there lies the answer. The reason, the meaning- that’s a key. One of the most famous psychologist Victor Frankl who worked immensely in the field of existential psychology wrote an eminent book called “Man’s search for meaning”. The book surrounds around his life at a concentration camp during world war II. He never tried to forget his past no ma...

There are many types of healing, there’s physical healing and then there’s psychological healing, sometimes also refer to as soul healing or spiritual healing. Physical healing is quite common to all of us, but what is this psychological healing? Is it even important? What is a psychological wound? How do we get hurt psychologically? Psychological healing is the healing from past trauma or any event that was quite stressful. Anything that distress us can cause a wound to our soul or psyche. This wound cannot be seen but can be felt. It is manifested in certain behavioral tendencies such as losing hope easily, getting exhausted quickly, getting triggered easily, not able to sleep or eat, cannot concentrate, and many more. Our soul is wounded when we go through a breakup, when someone close to us passes away, when we lose a job or we have been a part of something traumatic. Our consciousness can also be wounded when we transition from one stage of life to another (such as from adolesce...

  Being conscious leads to being in control . It’s happens somewhat this way- 1.       You become conscious 2.       Then you know how you feel, how the situation is (you have analysed the situation and yourself) 3.       Logic and reason is embedded in us, it’s always there but earlier it was blinded by our emotions but this time it’s not 4.       Now you know what’s the right thing to do or say (you are totally conscious of whatever you are doing so you will be in control of expressing yourself) 5.       Emotions will be in control.   “I don’t know why I did what I did” If you think about it, it makes total sense. Like have you ever said “I don’t know why I did what I did”. It’s because you actually didn’t know why you did it, you were not aware of what you were doing and you just did without thinking about its repercussions. If you eve...

  Sometimes we become so ignorant of things or so blind that the reality is right in front of us and we are not able to see it. Humans are very much driven by emotions, which is a good thing because it helps us in many ways and many others around us. But sometime they become the source of our problem and this happens when we are blinded by emotions. Let that emotion be love or anger or sadness or happiness. Anything in excess is damaging and so are good things. Like eating too much causes vomiting. Extreme happiness and euphoria is a mental illness.   Regulating emotions    The key solution here is “controlling emotions” or an even better term “regulating emotions”. This all comes under the concept of emotional intelligence which is as much important as any other form of intelligence.  We are never explicitly taught about emotional regulation and it’s believed that it comes with age as does wisdom. We spent our lives without knowing that how much weightage we ar...

While we sit inside of our homes, we are totally ignorant of the other fraction of the world who are not very privileged like us. Where the other fraction struggles for a single meal every day, we complain about the luxuries our lives are missing. It is so easy to be self-occupied and not feel responsible for others when our wants and needs are never ending and there’s no control over it. But we must learn to manage it. If managing it can provide someone a meal for a day, isn’t it worth it? I believe that as a human it is our duty to care of others who has no one, I guess that’s what makes us humans. Animals fight for territory and hold grudges and so do we. What is that ‘distinctiveness’ which makes us different from animals? We have a higher functioning brain than them which should be our advantage but we are exploiting it to exploit others and everything around us. There is a greater need than ever before to bring a change for our own betterment, to right all the wrongs. Starting ...