Regulating Emotions (part 2)

 

Being conscious leads to being in control. It’s happens somewhat this way-

1.      You become conscious

2.      Then you know how you feel, how the situation is (you have analysed the situation and yourself)

3.      Logic and reason is embedded in us, it’s always there but earlier it was blinded by our emotions but this time it’s not

4.      Now you know what’s the right thing to do or say (you are totally conscious of whatever you are doing so you will be in control of expressing yourself)

5.      Emotions will be in control.

 

“I don’t know why I did what I did”

If you think about it, it makes total sense. Like have you ever said “I don’t know why I did what I did”. It’s because you actually didn’t know why you did it, you were not aware of what you were doing and you just did without thinking about its repercussions.

If you ever go out of control then don’t deny it and accept it, because sometimes we do make mistakes. Just go back in that time (mentally) and understand what all you did and how did that happen, it will help you being in control in future. If you deny it, it means that you never give yourself a chance to understand ‘why does it happen to you and how does it happen’. Mistakes gives us an opportunity for learning, for growth and for betterment. They are our constructive criticism, do not think of the as failures. Perceive them positively and learn whatever you can out of them so that you don’t make the same mistake over and over again. So whenever you feel that you went out of control with your emotions, just analyse the situation in your head.

Do not take me wrong

All of this doesn’t mean that you need to deprive yourself of emotions and not feel a thing and let the logic deal with the situation. It’s a total misinterpretation. Controlling emotions doesn’t mean that you need not feel any. Feeling every emotion is a vital part of our existence. They are very important for our mental health. Feeling sad, angry, disgusted in short any negative emotions are very important because whenever a situation generates these emotions- a kind of energy is generated and we need to dispose that energy or it’s going on sit on our back for lifelong. It means metaphorically we’ll be carrying a bag full unexpressed/unprocessed emotions lifelong. This bag will eventually get heavy carrying the weight of cumulative emotions. Carrying a heavy bag on back would be a tough way to live our life. And we don’t want to live like this which is why feeling every emotion is very important. Don’t be embarrassed of crying, it a very healthy expression of being sad. After crying you feel light, like a weight is being lifted. It’s that energy you just disposed, now it will not bother you again. And if not processed or expressed, you will be easily annoyed or irritated.