Insightfulness - Perspective of Reality

  Sometimes we become so ignorant of things or so blind that the reality is right in front of us and we are not able to see it. Humans are very much driven by emotions, which is a good thing because it helps us in many ways and many others around us. But sometime they become the source of our problem and this happens when we are blinded by emotions. Let that emotion be love or anger or sadness or happiness. Anything in excess is damaging and so are good things. Like eating too much causes vomiting. Extreme happiness and euphoria is a mental illness.   Regulating emotions    The key solution here is “controlling emotions” or an even better term “regulating emotions”. This all comes under the concept of emotional intelligence which is as much important as any other form of intelligence.  We are never explicitly taught about emotional regulation and it’s believed that it comes with age as does wisdom. We spent our lives without knowing that how much weightage we ar...

Everything we have done in our life so far has been in pursuit of a single thing: joy . If we had been born as any other creature on this planet, it would have been very simple. Our needs would have just been physical. A full stomach would have been equivalent to a great day. But when we came into this world as human beings, things changed. As soon as the problem of hunger gets resolved, an infinite other problems arise. For a human being, life doesn't seem to end with survival, life begins with survival. If we see today's generation, our survival process is better organised than it was before. We can buy or get anything we need even without stepping out of our house, this was never possible before. We are the most comfortable generation to have ever lived on this planet. But are we the most joyful? The most loving? Or the most peaceful? No. We are not. We tried our best to fix the outside world. But still, we are not happier than our ancestors. This is because we focused...

  A day has 24 hours and by subtracting the hour we spend on sleep, we spend around 15 hours awake. How much of it do we spend with ourselves? And what is our own importance for ourselves? Does the answer of these two match like are they congruent? Being congruent means that if you are important to yourself then you spend around an hour of a day with yourself. Then these two statements are congruent. But if you are important for yourself but don’t even spend 15mins of a day with yourself, then these two statements are not congruent.   Two steps towards connecting with oneself. First is to realize the importance of oneself   Why are we even important for ourselves? Well why shouldn’t we be important for ourselves? What’s their not to love and cherish? We should be the most important person in our own life. We should be our own priority.  S econd is to spend time with oneself .  In our busy lives we often underestimate our own importance and the importance o...

Often our actions do not match our beliefs and our words. In psychology an attitude (belief about something) has three components- affect (emotions attached to the belief), behaviour (action) and cognition (the belief itself). Surprisingly our behaviour is not merely governed by our beliefs, it’s governed by the belief about that behaviour. So believing in something and acting on that thing becomes two separate entities. Which is why sometimes our words do not match our actions. Now to unite them, we need to form two separate but same beliefs. Like, don’t just tell yourself that you believe in it, say that you believe in doing it as well- that’s how you are unconsciously preparing your mind for that action.                    Now what about the times when you don’t know why you did something which diverges from your beliefs. What’s done is done and cannot be undone but the damage can be repaired. A routine...