Insightfulness - Perspective of Reality

  The past, what is about the past that we can not seem to overcome? It haunts us, holds us back, prevent us, clouds our judgement and blinds us. Most of the people enter therapy trying to cut the cord with the past or to get over it. People want to forget it like it never even happened. They don’t want to be bothered by it. But ask yourself, would you be the same person if you did not experience whatever you did, bitter or sweet. There’s a very common saying that I am going to repeat ‘everything happens for a reason’. There’s also a very common saying associated with it ‘everything happens for a reason, but I wish I knew the reason’ and there lies the answer. The reason, the meaning- that’s a key. One of the most famous psychologist Victor Frankl who worked immensely in the field of existential psychology wrote an eminent book called “Man’s search for meaning”. The book surrounds around his life at a concentration camp during world war II. He never tried to forget his past no ma...

  A day has 24 hours and by subtracting the hour we spend on sleep, we spend around 15 hours awake. How much of it do we spend with ourselves? And what is our own importance for ourselves? Does the answer of these two match like are they congruent? Being congruent means that if you are important to yourself then you spend around an hour of a day with yourself. Then these two statements are congruent. But if you are important for yourself but don’t even spend 15mins of a day with yourself, then these two statements are not congruent.   Two steps towards connecting with oneself. First is to realize the importance of oneself   Why are we even important for ourselves? Well why shouldn’t we be important for ourselves? What’s their not to love and cherish? We should be the most important person in our own life. We should be our own priority.  S econd is to spend time with oneself .  In our busy lives we often underestimate our own importance and the importance o...