Insightfulness - Perspective of Reality

  The past, what is about the past that we can not seem to overcome? It haunts us, holds us back, prevent us, clouds our judgement and blinds us. Most of the people enter therapy trying to cut the cord with the past or to get over it. People want to forget it like it never even happened. They don’t want to be bothered by it. But ask yourself, would you be the same person if you did not experience whatever you did, bitter or sweet. There’s a very common saying that I am going to repeat ‘everything happens for a reason’. There’s also a very common saying associated with it ‘everything happens for a reason, but I wish I knew the reason’ and there lies the answer. The reason, the meaning- that’s a key. One of the most famous psychologist Victor Frankl who worked immensely in the field of existential psychology wrote an eminent book called “Man’s search for meaning”. The book surrounds around his life at a concentration camp during world war II. He never tried to forget his past no ma...

There are many types of healing, there’s physical healing and then there’s psychological healing, sometimes also refer to as soul healing or spiritual healing. Physical healing is quite common to all of us, but what is this psychological healing? Is it even important? What is a psychological wound? How do we get hurt psychologically? Psychological healing is the healing from past trauma or any event that was quite stressful. Anything that distress us can cause a wound to our soul or psyche. This wound cannot be seen but can be felt. It is manifested in certain behavioral tendencies such as losing hope easily, getting exhausted quickly, getting triggered easily, not able to sleep or eat, cannot concentrate, and many more. Our soul is wounded when we go through a breakup, when someone close to us passes away, when we lose a job or we have been a part of something traumatic. Our consciousness can also be wounded when we transition from one stage of life to another (such as from adolesce...

  “There are only two industries that call their customers ‘users’: illegal drugs and software” -Edward Tufte Whenever you buy something new, don’t you interrogate about the product? Don’t you try to get all the information possible about it, all the pros and cons? But why do you do that? Because you are going to consume that product and you want the best, is that right? Now how much did you think before installing any of the social media apps? Did you try to think or investigate that how does it work? What are the pros and cons? You sure know all about the pros but how much do you know about the cons? So let me put a light upon how social works and manipulates human psychology. Artificial Intelligence If you are a consumer of this product then it’s very important that you are well versed with ‘artificial intelligence’. We all know what is human intelligence, the ability to learn, understand and adapt. Artificial intelligence is the intelligence of a machine. It’s is not na...

  Being conscious leads to being in control . It’s happens somewhat this way- 1.       You become conscious 2.       Then you know how you feel, how the situation is (you have analysed the situation and yourself) 3.       Logic and reason is embedded in us, it’s always there but earlier it was blinded by our emotions but this time it’s not 4.       Now you know what’s the right thing to do or say (you are totally conscious of whatever you are doing so you will be in control of expressing yourself) 5.       Emotions will be in control.   “I don’t know why I did what I did” If you think about it, it makes total sense. Like have you ever said “I don’t know why I did what I did”. It’s because you actually didn’t know why you did it, you were not aware of what you were doing and you just did without thinking about its repercussions. If you eve...

  Sometimes we become so ignorant of things or so blind that the reality is right in front of us and we are not able to see it. Humans are very much driven by emotions, which is a good thing because it helps us in many ways and many others around us. But sometime they become the source of our problem and this happens when we are blinded by emotions. Let that emotion be love or anger or sadness or happiness. Anything in excess is damaging and so are good things. Like eating too much causes vomiting. Extreme happiness and euphoria is a mental illness.   Regulating emotions    The key solution here is “controlling emotions” or an even better term “regulating emotions”. This all comes under the concept of emotional intelligence which is as much important as any other form of intelligence.  We are never explicitly taught about emotional regulation and it’s believed that it comes with age as does wisdom. We spent our lives without knowing that how much weightage we ar...

  This blog is a little different from my other blogs, it's just a way of perceiving our live and our existence.  Tracing back the history of humans existence, we go back to early man- back to million years ago where survival was the prime motive of life. Human behaviour was quite different from today but also somewhat the same- if you look close enough. For survival early man would kill another man, dominate, steal from other. Marking territories and bordering, the implicit rule of ‘not entering the territory of another’. If we look closely to all this, we still have the same kind of behaviour but we show it in a civilized way. If we look at the present, we have laws and orders to keep us from killing each other, or stealing from others and for many more behaviours. If humanity was embedded in us, we wouldn’t need rules and laws. But they are here to control our innate behavior. A system was made to tame humans- democracy, dictatorship, monarchy- all these form of governm...

Everything we have done in our life so far has been in pursuit of a single thing: joy . If we had been born as any other creature on this planet, it would have been very simple. Our needs would have just been physical. A full stomach would have been equivalent to a great day. But when we came into this world as human beings, things changed. As soon as the problem of hunger gets resolved, an infinite other problems arise. For a human being, life doesn't seem to end with survival, life begins with survival. If we see today's generation, our survival process is better organised than it was before. We can buy or get anything we need even without stepping out of our house, this was never possible before. We are the most comfortable generation to have ever lived on this planet. But are we the most joyful? The most loving? Or the most peaceful? No. We are not. We tried our best to fix the outside world. But still, we are not happier than our ancestors. This is because we focused...